Christmas in our house is like Christmas in most homes. We have a shrub, decorations, and stockings on our mantle. But under our tree there are no piles of Christmas offers. There are no wish lists left for Santa. You can find no closets filled with wrapping paper and ribbon, and no presents hidden where my children won’t find them. That’s right. I don’t give my kids Holiday presents. Other moms have called me a bad parent. Some people even tell me it’s abuse to not give my children Christmas presents. But in my house Christmas is about family time, celebrating our blessings, and being pleased. It’s not about seeking a pile of new expensive toys.
One Gift idea For Our Whole Family
All of us get one family present annually. In the past, our family gift idea has been things like a vacation, video gaming system, or new, fancy TV. But the family gift idea is always something for your entire family to enjoy together. Nobody gets individual items. When my kids were younger, they would get chocolate, small toys, and other things in their Holiday stockings. But rather than providing individual gifts, we target spending time as a family. We volunteer at charity drives and we go caroling. We always go to choose a Christmas shrub as a family. And Christmas breakfast is a time-honored tradition where we all enjoy a elegant festive breakfast in our PJs. Since we’re not opening presents in the morning, we watch a holiday movie while great feasts on special holiday snacks that I only make once a year.
Why I Do not Buy Individual Gifts
I actually don’t give my children Christmas presents because Dont really want them to be carried away. They shouldn’t grow upwards thinking they’re qualified for lavish and expensive presents once a year. I don’t want my kids to feel like they need to do well all year to get rewarded with items for the vacations, either. They should be good at all times because it’s the right thing to do, not because they’re awaiting an expensive reward. We want those to value the holidays for the time they get to spend with their family, not the quantity of presents under the tree. The true meaning of holiday time is being thankful for all that you have, not trying to see how much more you can get. One way to do that is to create something with each other, as children or team. One of the best DO IT YOURSELF creations is this beautiful holiday star.
I realize this is controversial, especially in this day and age. But my kids want for nothing. They have smartphones and laptops, plus I give them new clothes when they need them. I don’t wait until Christmas rolls around to give them gifts. They get what they need, and usually they get what they want, just because it’s part of life. Not as a reward for being good, and not from “Santa Claus. ” In our house, Christmas time is special because of who we spend it with.